Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.
Starry Night (detail)
Vincent Van Gogh
Oil on canvas, 1889
The lights are so bright but they never blind me…
Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone Original Book + J. K. Rowling’s Notes
Add a touch of life to your outfit by tying your hair back with a very tiny snake.
People talk about books that write themselves, and it’s a lie. Books don’t write themselves. It takes thought and research and backache and notes and more time and more work than you’d believe.